No Porn… Forever??

[Q]

Hey man, you’ve been a big help with my no porn/no masturbation adventures so I wanna thank you first. I’m on day 129 of no fap and kinda on day 129 of no porn (I looked at a few images).

But I’m having some difficulties. I no longer have the urge to fap anymore but the urge for porn is still there. I’m 100% sure that I can control how much I watch it now, there’s no way I’m ever gonna indulge in it like I used to. But I was wondering even if I watch it every two weeks or once a month would I still be setting myself back?

[A]

Congrats on getting to 129 man! That’s impressive! When working so hard for so long it’s not surprising that you might start thinking about this question. I know where I stand on the issue, but the important thing is figuring out where YOU stand. So here are my questions to you –

Does your ideal self (i.e. the person you want to be) watch porn? You’ve already proved that you can function without pornography and now you need to figure out whether watching it now would move you closer to, or further away from the person you truly want to be.

So who would you rather be: someone who doesn’t watch porn, or someone who watches porn every once in a while? I’m not going to ever encourage you to be less your best. So if watching porn isn’t you at your best, then don’t do it! I know that is my own personal stance. If at your best you decide that you can watch porn, then our opinions don’t match and I wish you the best!

For further reflection think about these questions: why do you think you still want to watch porn? What would you be getting out of watching it? Then ask yourself this: Is there a better way to get those things that you want instead of through watching porn?

If you can take the time to think through these questions then you should have your own answers. My only advice is to be the best person you can be. If you commit yourself to that then everything should fall into place :)

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