Is masturbation without porn bad for you?

Here’s a Q&A I took from this post on Reddit. I agree wholeheartedly with draconis and add my own two cents in at the end.

[Q] From LINEemUP

I started just a few days ago not looking at porn after watching “Your brain on porn,” but I wonder if just masturbating to thoughts has any detrimental effect?

[A]From draconis

I can see some detrimental effects:

  • it will desensitize your sex organs: a vagina is always going to generate less sensation that your hand; and if you have fap-induced ED, it won’t improve as long as you continue masturbating
  • even if you don’t use porn, it will create a link between sex and your imagination. Even when having real sex, you’ll need to imagine scenarios to orgasm – you’ll be having sex in your head, not through your senses
  • it’s boring; after a while, you’ll want to get back to porn to make it more interesting
  • you won’t reap the benefits of self-control and mastery over your thoughts; this is where all the superpowers come from.

Up until recently, I believed that I absolutely needed to orgasm every few days, to maintain my health and mental balance. Now I’ve been doing NoFap hard-mode for almost 3 weeks, and it’s been a real eye-opener that I don’t actually need sex at all. Sure, I have erections sometimes, I feel attracted to women too, but I don’t need it. I can do without.

Yes, sometimes I feel lonely or depressed or anxious, but those are problems that I have to face and deal with separately; fapping won’t solve them.

Look, NoFap hard mode is really easy, because there are no edge cases or grey areas. Just follow two rules:

  • keep your eyes away from images of nudity or sex
  • keep your hands away from your genitals (except for purposes of hygiene).

When it comes to my take on the topic of masturbating without porn, there is only one main question that you have to answer:

Do I want to be a man that masturbates?

Ultimately, my purpose is to help people act according to their highest values and morals so that they can truly be the person that they want to be. I want people to become their ideal selves. So for me personally, my ideal self is not someone who masturbates. So I don’t. Simple as that.

Figure out who you want to be, and then take the steps to become that person. No doubt it will require some work, but it will be infinitely worth it. Always accept who you are in the moment, but continuously strive towards where you want to be.

I recognize that much of my audience has trouble believing that they can live happily without orgasm. If you find yourself in this camp and are afraid of giving up masturbation, then chances are it is just because you haven’t gone long enough without it to learn that you will be just fine! Step outside of your comfort zone, because that is where your true potential is waiting!

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